“Powerful and poetic. Make Me a Man, with its narrative that is both intimate and universal, provides a valuable insight into new masculinities.”
When men challenge patriarchal masculinity
and choose vulnerability instead.
A man's vulnerability can become a source of inspiration for others. In "Make Me a Man," eight men discuss their problems, their families, their relationships with women... Their rare, intimate words resonate far from the clichés of triumphant masculinity.
Welcome
We are London based therapist Jerry HYDE, and Paris based film maker Mai HUA.
MAKE ME A MAN is our contribution to the sometimes thorny issue of gender and masculinity. This film was made over three years, in close collaboration with our communities, both online and IRL. We are deeply grateful for their support, rich feedback, and love.
MAKE ME A MAN is a completely independent and self-funded project. The money you contribute helps us continue creating. In gratitude to those who support us by buying the film, we’re offering the soundtrack as an exclusive bonus. To receive it, simply send your proof of purchase to supertimai@gmai.com.
Discover, offer the film, talk about it – the shared human experience remains at the heart of what we do.
Love, peace and gratitude,
Mai & Jerry.
synopsis
Therapist Jerry Hyde has been holding talking circles for men for 30 years. Not to develop their masculinity, but to gain access to their most intimate truth.
Join them, both in their reflections, and on a powerful pilgrimage to the Somme, to the commemoration sites of the First World War.
Funny, tragic, poignant, and above all, viscerally honest, each participant opens up in a raw, precious, never seen before way.
Press & Podcast
The Community
« I cried for an hour and 15 minutes. »
« It’s a public service film, it does so much good. »
« So much beauty »
« I have sent it to all the men I love. »
« I gifted it to a couple of friends who are going through a difficult time. »
How can you help us ?
Make Me a Man is a completely independent and self-directed film.
Buy the movie! Talk about it! Give it as a gift!
If you would like to view it with a larger audience (more than 10 people), for your business, your local community, or your own talking circles, contact Mai at supertimai@gmail.com. If you would like supervision to open your own talking circle, contact Jerry at jerryhyde@mac.com
Biographies
JERRY HYDE is a London-based therapist and author of several bestsellers –Bladesville, Dreamachine, Play From Your Fucking Heart, The Book of Sin and Empathy For the Devil.
After a career in music, film, and theater, he trained as a therapist and created his own signature style, ‘Gonzo therapy.’ He is recognized for his work with men, as well as artists and creatives.
MAKE ME A MAN is his first film, and the result of 25 years of pre-production, working on his men’s discussion circles.
MAI HUA is a French artist and filmmaker of Vietnamese origin, based in Paris. She has worked for 14 years with her digital communities and shares her research on intimacy, women, and spirituality, in the desire to participate in our personal and societal transformations.
MAKE ME A MAN is her second feature film. Her first,THE RIVERS (2019), is a 5-year investigation into her line of women, to understand the issues of family memory.
Mai and Jerry are preparing their new film MAY DAY, to be released October 2025.
Before action
By all the glories of the day,
And the cool evening’s benison,
By that last sunset touch that lay,
Upon the hills when day was done,
By beauty lavishly outpoured,
And blessings carelessly received,
By all the days that I have lived,
Make me a soldier, Lord.
By all of man’s hopes and fears,
And all the wonders poets sing,
The laughter of unclouded years,
And every sad and lovely thing;
By the romantic ages stored
With high endeavour that was his,
By all his mad catastrophes
Make me a man, O Lord.
I, that on my unfamiliar hill
Saw with uncomprehending eyes
A hundred of thy sunsets spill
Their fresh and sanguine sacrifice,
Ere the sun swings his noonday sword
Must say good-bye to all of this;-
By all delights that I shall miss,
Help me to die, O Lord.
William Noel Hodgson
Killed in action July 1 1916.
Avant le combat
Par toutes les gloires du jour
Et la douce bénédiction du soir,
Par ce dernier toucher du crépuscule
Déposé sur les collines quand le jour s’achève,
Par la beauté généreusement déversée
Et les bénédictions reçues sans y penser,
Par tous les jours que j’ai vécus,
Fais-moi un soldat, Seigneur.
Par tous les espoirs et craintes de l’homme
Et toutes les merveilles que chantent les poètes,
Le rire des années sans nuages,
Et toute chose triste et charmante ;
Par les siècles romantiques emplis
De hauts efforts passés,
Par toutes ses folles catastrophes,
Fais-moi un homme, ô Seigneur.
Moi, qui sur ma colline familière
Ai vu, les yeux sans les comprendre,
Une centaine de tes couchers de soleil se répandre
Leur sacrifice frais et sanguin,
Avant que le soleil ne brandisse son épée zénithale,
Je dois dire adieu à tout cela ; —
Par tous les plaisirs qui me manqueront,
Aide-moi à mourir, ô Seigneur.
William Noel Hodgson
Écrit deux jours seulement avant sa mort
